How communication can be misinterpreted as "you don't understand me"

  provide how communication can be misinterpreted as "you don't understand me" and possibly more intensely "you don't love me"? Also, describe the 4 Horseman and their antidotes. What can you gain from John Gottman's "Science of Love"? Lastly, how does Dr. Sue Johnson view healthy attachment and how can couples build trust with one another?